If you wish to experience drama at its best, then adopt a couple of pre-teen girls for the afternoon. I recently had such an experience with my daughter and a couple of her friends.
As soon as they got into the car, I started to listen to things like:
"Everybody flunked the test."
"He said he liked me and it had been the very best day of my whole entire life."
"OMG...that was so embarrassing mom. Please don't wave at the high school kids."
"I won't ever, ever understand math."
"You NEVER take me shopping."
"I don't have anything to wear."
The drama continued for the duration of the car ride.
It reminded me of the drama queen in many of us (especially women who struggle with emotional eating and body image issues).
The grown up drama queen says things like:
"I have fallen off the wagon."
"I'll never, ever be thin."
"Everybody can eat what they want but me."
"I'm such a failure."
"OMG...did you see me trying to operate? That was so humiliating."
Through the years to be a female and experiencing womanhood, I have come to realize that individuals all have a crisis queen that lives within us. It only becomes an issue when she is running the show. Dramacool
So, here are a few strategies for living at peace together with your inner drama diva:
1. Consider the drama, as opposed to from the drama
When you will find yourself being embroiled into a remarkable moment, simply notice what's going on. Observe the way the emotions build, and then notice how you're tempted to act. Are you able to see how drama adds a complexity to the specific situation?
2. State the Facts
Drama is judgment of the facts. In place of saying, "I made a 74 on the math test," a crisis queen says, "I'm such a failure. I won't ever, ever learn math." Or, as opposed to saying "I ate a bag of Oreos," she'll say, "I have fallen off the wagon, and I'll never, ever be thin." Try stating just the important points of the specific situation, without judgment or negativity.
3. Prove your drama queen wrong
The inner dramatic loves to sensationalize things, but why don't you challenge her a little with proof. For example, when she claims you will never, ever be thin, find evidence to prove her wrong. Find others who've done that which you are trying to do or find reasons why you can be thin.
4. Give her the stage
Your drama queen just wants to be heard and seen. Give poor people thing 5 or 10 minutes each day to accomplish her thing. I prefer to schedule in drama time when I can complain, exaggerate, cry, or just step out of my beautiful life for some moments to have completely swept up in drama, but then I return and close the curtain.
5. Take her to the movies
We all crave a little excitement inside our lives. The issue occurs once we use our lives while the stage for unhealthy drama to unfold. To entertain that section of you who craves a huge production, try taking her to see a great show or read a great, trashy novel. You can leave feeling satisfied without completing mucking up your life.
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